One of my upcoming Instagram posts says: The truth is, most people feel that they were designed for something greater than what they are accomplishing. They want more meaning in their life. They want to feel significant. And, they want to matter. (By the way, if you’re not following me on Instagram, you can find Her RICH Life here.)

The bottom line is that high-achieving women want to live significant lives – lives with purpose and rich legacies. And, that’s a perfectly attainable goal.  

One thing that often keeps women from reaching their goal is their mindset. Scripture says that, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” (Proverbs 23:7) Your thoughts become your words and your words become your actions. So, if you don’t think in terms of your destiny, you won’t speak in destiny language and you won’t do what needs to be done for you to live a destiny life – a life of significance.

It’s not always possible to control the thoughts that come into your mind, but you do control which thoughts you are going to let dwell there. Because there are some thoughts that show up at the door of your mind that you need to tell, “No thanks; you’re not welcome here.”

That can be challenging – but not impossible. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” You have a choice – you can choose to change your mindset. When you choose to change your thoughts, you can bring more significance into your life.


1st – Give yourself permission to want to change

Somewhere along the line, you may have unconsciously fallen into the trap that you should just be thankful for what you have and not to expect anything different. Or, maybe you’re living a life that others envy, but you’ve lost your joy for it because you know God has something more for you. I’ve been there, so I know what that’s like.

What I want you to know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, is that It’s okay to want something different.

You have permission to change who you are, how you are or what you do if it’s not in alignment with who you believe God designed you to be.

You’ll grow and be empowered to experience more of your potential when you take a chance on yourself. And, it’s okay to dream big. If God is telling you to do something that seems too big for you, it probably is. He wants to help you accomplish what He’s placed in your heart. If God has ordained it, you can’t accomplish it without Him. You have His permission to go for it; now give yourself permission to go after that big dream He’s given you. It all starts with making the decision to change your mind.

2nd – Ask yourself questions that spark your imagination

When you ask the right questions, you get the right answers. So, when you have a challenge or an opportunity, don’t stop at “this is too hard, or I can’t do that.” Instead, prayerfully ask yourself powerful questions:

  • What would I have to do?
  • Who could help me?
  • When could I take a step?
  • Who would I have to be or become?
  • What could be my first step?

Too many high-achieving women talk themselves out of designing a significant life because they feel trapped in reaching for success. The two things don’t have to be mutually exclusive. But, you will never know for sure if an opportunity or a challenge is meant to bring you closer to significance, until you decide to give yourself a chance.

3rd – Don’t let past dreams dictate your present and future

Your life is a book that’s being written daily. Sometimes, new chapters bring new dreams, opportunities and adventures.

The truth is, changing direction is perfectly okay. The life you’re living today may have been your dream life at one time. But now, God may have placed a new desire in your heart – a desire which grew out of a destiny mindset.

Don’t let your circumstances, your time on the job, your title or your paycheck allow you to miss out on what God has for you. Don’t allow people to tell you you’re not ready or qualified – God equips everyone He calls.

Remember that the pages in your book are blank. But, you get to choose how to fill them. You get to decide what you want the next chapters in your book to look like and what you want your story to say.

A mindset change requires certain things from you:

  • Patience – trust that God will bring to pass what He has ordained for your life; what He has for you, is for you.
  • Persistence – don’t give up; sometimes we stop right before we’re about to get our breakthrough.
  • Perseverance – develop a tenacity that will sustain you through fear, questions, challenges and obstacles; be in it for the long haul.

Just remember that living a life of significance, starts with transformation. If you want a significant, purpose-filled and meaningful life, mindset is everything – begin there.