When you read that headline, you might have thought I was going to be talking about quitting your job. Afterall, that is a desire for a lot of high-achieving women. And, I have written about that in the past: 3 Keys to Leaving a Career You No Longer Love and How to Tell Your Husband You Want to Quit Your Job are two examples of posts on that topic.
But that’s not what this article is about.
I remember years ago, when the Lord led me to retire from the bench, He clearly told me to start an online women’s ministry. After much prayer (and procrastination and fear), I started Refresh Your Faith Ministries. And, it was such a blessing. I was able to meet and partner with women all over the world who had the same desires I had: to grow in our faith and advance the Kingdom of God. I am still friends with some of them today. My dream of doing work that I loved and felt called to do came true when I launched that ministry.
But several years later, the vision for my life changed. I was led to serve in a different way. My focus moved from women’s ministry to helping African American elementary and middle school girls improve their self-worth. My non-profit, Changing the Buzz, Inc. was born, and Refresh Your Faith Ministries was retired. Yes, it was time to quit.
This experience came to mind as I was thinking about my goals and dreams for this year. And led me to a couple of lessons I’ve learned that I’d like to share with you.
Lesson #1 – Things can be going perfectly fine, but it’s time to quit.
My mission in life is to encourage, motivate and inspire women and girls to live their best lives through the word of God. Did my ministry do that? Absolutely! Did my non-profit do that? Yes!
You see, my mission and purpose will not change. But the way in which I live out my calling has changed over time. For instance, I’ve continued serving women and girls with Her RICH Life. And, if a time comes where I believe the Lord is calling me to move in another direction, I will. Because I believe that whatever He calls me to next, it will continue to help me serve women and girls.
Romans 11:29 says that God’s gifts and His call are irrevocable. The gifts He’s given you and the calling He’s placed in your heart, will never change. But how you use your gifts and live out your call can. That’s why if you feel that the Lord is leading you to quit a dream or a goal, you don’t have to be afraid that you’re losing something. It simply means that He has something else for you – and don’t be surprised if it’s much bigger and better.
Lesson #2 – Things can be hard, but that doesn’t mean it’s time to quit.
When I think about every dream I’ve had – from becoming a lawyer to starting my own business – there were always times when things were hard. My first year of law school is still the most difficult thing I’ve ever done and running a business is not unicorns and rainbows every day. But being hard is not the determining factor when you’re trying to decide if it’s time to quit a dream or goal.
In weightlifting, muscles get stronger when the amount of resistance is increased. In the same way, your faith, ability to trust God and the belief that you can do what He’s called you to do, become stronger when you continue forward in the face of resistance, challenges and problems. Romans 5:4 is a reminder that perseverance builds character and character builds hope.
So, if things are hard for you as you pursue a dream or goal, don’t quit just because you’re facing resistance. Unless God clearly tells you to quit, press on.
If you’re struggling with whether to give up on a dream or goal and you need some help in figuring out what to do, be on the lookout for the details for my upcoming February Life Class: The Year of “Yes, Lord!” – The Key to Having a Remarkable Year. During the session, I’ll share insights that will help you get the clarity you need.